Threw my husband out. (long, read at your own risk)

And he's a pilot.




For the company I dispatch for.








I wont go into gory details since I dont want to be the sad drama queen here and Im a stranger to this board. But it became very obvious over the past few months that he an I have VERY different ideas of what marriage is. His actions over the past year have told me that he is either too selfish or just not mature enough to devote part of his life to someone else and the final straw came saturday night.

There was the "numb, just go to bed." feeling right after he left, followed by the "boohoo call mom and daddy," few hours. That was followed by the "angry, storm around the house packing his crud up," moment. I went out with my friends for the first time in 2 years...proceeded to get completely "Not FAA Legal" and came home to our house in STL long enough to get my badge and suitcase. Commuted back to MSP yesterday and now its just....calm.

When I first came in tonight, another dispatcher immediately perked up and said "Hey, Krystal. Ive got your husbands SDF flight, what desk are you and Ill send it over..." It felt really good to say "I dont want it."

Here comes the problem.

I have always been "Dispatch Krystal" when I come to the office. I pride myself in my ability to not let my personal life interfere with work. Aviation is my life and when Im working, even if I was falling apart and hour before at home, the moment I sign into my desk, Im a rock. All the stress melts away and I
completely content.
What worries me a little is that, Ive never had the experience of looking at my flight and seeing the name of my soon-to-be ex on my release. I know he'll be fine...in fact, he's always told me that his job would always be worth more to him than I would. I think I will be too. I just worry.

As far as the logistics, I dont anticipate it being messy. We dont own very much. Just our airport cars and the car we share in STL. We dont have children together (By his wish, not mine) We agreed that we will continue to pay on our apartment and crash pad so we can work getting moved around our schedules without having to worry about time crunches. I will move in with my mother since I have 2 children from a previous marriage (man, Im doing great aren't I!? lol) and she has spare bedrooms...cant afford our apartment on my own. He brings in four times what I earn! He will move out of the crash pad and in with another pilot in MSP. He only commuted because he knew I couldnt move.


For the record, I didnt come to this company to be closer to him. In fact, I passed on applying several times because it seemed like a bad idea to put all of our eggs in one basket. But after working in MEM for a year, having to DRIVE instead of fly every week due to lack of flights, I was exhausted and spending half of my paycheck on gas. When I saw we were hiring, I fell all over myself to get back to MSP. For me as a person, life couldnt be better!

So there is my weird situation. I guess it could be worse...I could be a FA and be forced to fly with him...or he could be a MX Controller and work in the same office! The most contact I would ever have would be on the phone. Still, its bringing my personal schtuff into my "santuary"....I hate it.

So I will shut up now and man up. I feel better today than I have in years and I should be thankful.
Thanks for giving me an outlet.

Thanks. Like your avatar.

Best of luck in the next chapter of your life Krystal.

I would have a sit down conversation with your supervisor and explain the situation. There is a liability exposure that you and the company both need to address. Regardless of the facts, if something goes wrong on a flight that he takes that you dispatch, such relationships could be brought up in court and be used against you and / or the company. The odds of it happening are small, but the consequences could be very large.

Eeek, I couldnt imagine anyone doing anything deliberate to harm a flight just because their ex was flying. Ill let the sup know as soon as its an appropriate time to do so.

Sorry to hear this. Wish you the best

That's rough, I'm sorry to hear it

Sorry My friend. I agree with what was said earlier let the company know whats going on.

Do you work at a smaller airline? Sorry to hear the news.

Yah jet. 42 planes. Its alright though. I work overnight shifts so I seldomly deal with any of his flights anyway.

if your avatar is really you. you will have no problem finding another guy. Just stay away from us pilots we are bad news.

hah! Yes it is really me. And you are a shameless flatterer! I dont belive all pilots are bad news.... just the ones raised by emmasculating, naive and ditzy moms and woman-hating neaderthal dads and who are used to dating castrating feminists. (He's from California....)

dont you know the average pilot, despite the sometimes swaggering exterior, is very much capable of such feelings as love, affection, intimacy and caring. These feelings just don't involve anyone else.

Eh, you and your kids will be better in the long run. He obviously made it clear you take a backseat in his life, to the box truck baby!!! (The Next Great Baker reference)

I find it a little odd that folks post personal life stuff on a forum...maybe it's easier with strangers.

You didnt have to click on it, Bunk.

That said, thanks for everyones kinds words. Posted here because I can't be the first person in aviation to divorce a spouse who works for the same airline. Aviation is a small world.

True and I wasn't trying to be mean....I didn't read all of it either. Good luck with your problem of course.