Long distance relationships.

Just ask her out right . tell her your concerns about it.

It seems we are on the right direction, however not out of the woods yet. I finally talked to her, she is going through a lot of crap, and understandably me on the island out here is exactly what I am, on an island out here...So time will tell.

Hand written letters? What are those? I remember going to boot camp 12 years ago and it wasn't a big deal, hand written letters. I didn't have a cell phone, let alone a computer of my own. I hate to see what it would be like these days 3 months of facebook, smartphone, ipad, youtube etc.

A C Model on the other hand...

Is a twin beech deserving of a name other than a twin beech. The C model is a sexy lady.

The only sexy kingair as far as I'm concerned.

Really guys? My long distance thread has resulted in how sexy airplanes are? Ya'll are wrong. This sweetie right here is the knees bees.

Best of luck man! Ive done a few of the long distance relationships and they never seem to work out for me. Then again, I dislike long phone chats and talking about a boring day.

I've told it before, but '93-'94 I was in the Western Sahara while my wife was in Korea. No Internet. No phones. No cable or sat dish. Maybe an occasional HF phone patch to the US where the ham radio operator would call a DSN operator who would then do a DSN phone patch to Korea. "wurble wurble I really miss you hon, over" would be heard by everyone as "cover me with honey". Mail took four weeks each way. Heck, by the time I responded to a letter in which she was POed about something she had already forgotten and all I did was remind her that I was an idiot. Stupid satellite dish was off loaded from the the freedom bird that flew in to take me out.

Ah yes! You're the only one from JC to meet us both.

So, you are in your early 30's, living thousands of miles away, "getting back on your feet" (whatever that entails), and you're engaged? From my way of thinking, you've got no business even dating, let alone engaged to be married. Are you really engaged (i.e. you've given her a ring, and set a date)? Or is it one of those "someday we will" type of things?

What stuns me more is that there is a woman out there willing to accept these conditions.

Don't misunderstand. I am not attacking you. I'm just pointing out that, at this point in your life, you don't seem to have much to offer a potential lifemate in terms of what needs to be in place for a marriage to work (stable job, some money in the bank, future prospects, living in the same zip code). It would seem to me that you would both be better off if you put this relationship on hold until those things are in place.

Thank you for your input. I agree this is much less than ideal conditions. At this point I am not trying to dissolve my relationship. How I arrived at this point is irrelevant. Not everyone has a cookie cutter evolution. However I am trying to maintain some sort of stasis.

Greetings everyone. I have reached a state of equilibrium from what can be expected from here. A lot of stuff happened on the other end. Although I think it could have been handled more efficiently, but we are working on our communication. Thanks everyone for your support, commentary and input.

Well, I had this whole long thing that I wrote before...But to sum things up, when it comes to women,believe half of what you hear, and don't sleep with both eyes closed, rest with one eye up.. My .02

Don't drive yourself nuts man.And if you don't want to be in a situation, don't put yourself in one!
Good luck and all the best.

Dude. It's definitely shady. Having said that, don't count it out or throw the whole thing away. You really just have to keep yourself occupied and try not to think about her. If you're calling her all of the time and she's only talking for a few minutes, that's definitely a bad sign. The truth in life is that each person will do what they want to do. If she wanted to talk to you, she would. You really just have shift the security of the relationship (i.e. just stop talking to her and do your own thing). She needs to realize that you are a great part of her life in which she can vent to and share things with. In order to convince her of that, you just need to not talk to her for a while. She'll come back around if she cares. If she doesn't, well.... that's not the girl for you.