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| Administrator Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Pinal Airpark, AZ (KMZJ)
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You may notice that nowhere did I judge you or call you any sort of name or inference, jokingly or otherwise. And you may also notice that I did, when speaking seriously, note that there has to be a compromise of some kind, as courtesy indeed goes both ways......that is, from him to you, as well as in reverse. My answer on people being able to smoke or not was in response to another poster and was really a separate conversation from what your situation. You should post any question you like here, not feel that you can't. No, it has nothing to do with name calling nor should it. Nor does it have to do with gas masks, quitting jobs, attendance of SERE school, etc . My serious answer to you still is one of this: ask the guy, as a courtesy, if he could refrain from smoking when you two are in the car....heck, make up an excuse if you must....allergic to smoke or something. But bring it up tactfully as a respectful request if you could get some professional courtesy of not having to have to deal with smoke in close quarters. Thats really all that can be done. Either he's a compromising person, or he isn't. As you say you two tend to get along in all other ways, this shouldn't be any different. How he responds to that request will show you whether he's a respectful person or not. I realize that you're only asking him to refrain for certain periods of close quarters, and to me that's reasonable to ask, again from a courtesy perspective. Have you tried it that way? Would you be willing?
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| | #77 | |
| Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: IAH, ONT, EWR,
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Yes- I will give this try another go. Thank you for your clarification- I was not sure if you were in reference to me or someone else, so I responded as if It were I. But thanks, I hope it helps others as well in my situation. YES SMOKERS HAVE RIGHT TO SMOKE.. YES NON SMOKERS HAVE RIGHT-NOT to SMOKE... But where is the fine line between the two- so that both people are able to enjoy their rights without infringing on the other persons?
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| Administrator Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Pinal Airpark, AZ (KMZJ)
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You have a tough one here. I hate being direct with people in power but this isn't the 60s. There's a good reason we have laws against smoking. 40% of cancers are caused by tobacco use (sourced from an NPR health report a few weeks ago). No, second hand smoke isn't exaggerated. You have enough crap to worry about hurting you in an airplane, something as backwards as smoking shouldn't be one of them. If the dude want's to have the lung capacity of someone that probably can't even run a mile and look 20 years older than his real age, that's his problem. When you guys are in a company car though his smoking is your problem. Rant over. I think you just need to be direct and consistent with him. Say "I like you and I understand that you have a physical need to smoke, but it's really been getting to me. Can we make some sort of compromise about when you smoke?" I find that when you're honest and direct with people and try to understand their side you can usually win them over.
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As a side note, I don't even wanna know where that last sentence came from. (my sadistic side says yea, I want to know, but no, I am good )
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Next time he lights up, grab the nearest fire extinguisher and empty it in his face. That'll show him. |
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| Old Skool | I was very serious about the gas mask! I actually cannot stand second hand smoke and if 165 bucks means not losing a few years of my life to potential lung cancer I would wear that thing every car ride. Hopefully he wouldn't take offense from it and it might turn into a comedy. At the very least I would get a home depot filtered mask though for cig smoke they would probably be pretty useless. I would at first of course try what you already did to confront him. But a gas mask = no more confrontation and both parties happy...maybe laughing. Oh and I would so get the yellow hood too just for effect. But that is just my personality, if you can't joke about something than whats the point?
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| Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Houston
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I hate to tell you, but as I read your post, your captain doesn't give a rats ass what you think, and there is no mutual respect on his part. Being OK to work with when you have everything your way is not mutual respect. You should not be subjected to his smoking in your professional capacity - period. Define what is acceptable to you and tell him firmly, giving him the opportunity to find a mutually acceptable way to remedy the situation. If that doesn't work, you can discuss it with your supervisor but make sure you document every conversation and what was said. Always maintain the highest standards of respect and professionalism but be firm and to the point. If you are unable to find satisfactory results, you might consider contacting OSHA for help. If the company has elected not to help you up to this point, I would begin to think that perhaps this job was not as good as you might of thought. Good Luck... | |
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| Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Denver, CO
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What i posted was tactiful and respectful. Smokers do not have the right to smoke in a confined space that I occupy such as a rental car if I am required by my job to be in that car (company does not provide 2 rentals, one for each pilot). Sorry but your off on this one.
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| | #86 |
| Old Skool |
Have you considered one of those small, hand-held fans?
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| Old Skool Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: KTRL, KTYR, F46, T48
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Start driving the car and making him ride in the passenger seat. When he lights his cigarette roll down all the windows in the car and hit the window lock. This of course is a last resort to really confronting him and letting him know how much this bothers you. Don't P-foot around the issue. Lay it out and let him know that his behavior is unacceptable.
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| Old Skool? Naw, just Old! Join Date: May 2003 Location: GRR
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That's certainly a different set of circumstances.
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Don't go sightseeing with him! If he asks why, tell him what the problem is. He then has two options---agree to not smoke when you're in the car sightseeing with him, or he can go alone. ![]() Then you've put the ball in his court and you can see what kind of person he really is.
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| Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: 170 to Parcl
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Seems to me the final solution would be for the company (Captain) to go out and hire a F/O that smokes. Problem solved.
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| Old Skool Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: KC
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I am personally hurt that the whole "start smoking" thing was dismissed so readily. Smoking is wonderful and relaxing. Plus, it makes you look cool. It helps me not yell the word "F_-_-!!!" at least 10 times per day. Plus, I would have gotten the aforementioned finders fee from RJ Reynolds and Altria (formerly Philip Morris). I get $5 if I can get an adult to start, and $20 if I can get a youngster 16 years or under to start. Smoking solves problems (like this one - it wouldn't be an issue then) and generally improves QOL (up until cancer, or emphysema - but those won't happen until later anyway and you'll be old then so who cares). They say quitting smoking will add ten years to your life - but it is the last ten, so what are you really gaining? That last ten could very well be spent impotent, incontinent while laying in a ratty nursing home with mean nurses (because you couldn't afford a good nursing home because you quit your good flying job due to the Captain smoking...) Here is a final PSA about the benefits of smoking:
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| Old Skool Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: River city named after "Louis". But not the good one.
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On the contrary, it gets funnier with each expository installment. "Start smoking" sounds dismissive and arrogant. But Waco is putting the proper amount of thought and craftsmanship in to his well-reasoned responses. I'm convinced, I'm going to start smoking.
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| Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Nowhere USA
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My guess would be that your hypersensitivity to a few whiffs of cigarette smoke is a stress reaction caused by a new flying job (a job which is stressful enough anyway). You have to repress your stress while flying, but once on the ground it finds an outlet. Some find an outlet in drink, sex, driving/riding fast, etc., while others find it in anger — politics, race, company management, or, in your case, second-hand smoke. Exercise is the best antidote for stress. It only bothers you because you allow it to bother you. To take it all to another level, when one looks back on all the young men who died flying in combat, who died from mechanicals, bad luck and all the other things which have killed aviators over the years, having to endure a few minutes of second-hand smoke is so trivial as to be laughable. Waco is not being as facetious as he seems. In Asia it is not uncommon for doctors to advise their patients to start smoking as a way to control nervous disorders. Still, +1 on the pussy factor. You're a pilot, remember?
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| Commodore Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: back to the line...
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| | #96 |
| Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007
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I just don't understand how anyone with an IQ above 75 continues to smoke these days.
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| Old Skool Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: KC
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At am 80 IQ and have just finished a satisfying and refreshing Pall Mall...so much for your theory.
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| Old Skool Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Bach's Arco Pitcairn
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| It's very easy. Re-filling the lighter is sometimes the hard part. Or, keeping a match lit in the wind. Once you get your cigarette lit up, the rest is pretty easy!
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| Commodore Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: back to the line...
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(Other than being addicted) Now, I would never challenge any persons right to enjoy a legal form of recreation, as long as that enjoyment does not come at the expense of others.
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| Old Skool Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Bach's Arco Pitcairn
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| Because it tastes really good. Like a cheeseburger, or a corndog, or a french fry.
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