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April 9th, 2004, 07:12
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| Old Skool  Join Date: May 2003 Location: In the O-zone
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 |  Passing of a Hero I hope this is the appropriate forum to post this: The Hon. John Richard Tenney My dad had his life support equipment removed last night and is slowly passing away. He was lucid and alert when he made the decision. He became comatose around 130 am. The nurses say it will be sometime this morning. He is fighting systematic failure of just about his whole body. He is paralyzed from the waist down, blind, failed kidneys, failed intestines and a bunch of other problems. He was given 6 months to live in January 1997. He is and always will be My Hero. He was the most supportive person anyone could ask for. He was born on March 4, 1930 in Ridgewood, NJ. He graduated from Colgate and Cornell Law School. He married Cynthia Roberts from Hamilton, NY in 1956. He served as an attorney from 1956 and Republican Oneida County Chairman from 1960 to 1968. He retired from the State of NY as a Supreme Court Judge earlier this year. He was originally elected in 1968. He leaves his wife Cynthia and five children.  |
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April 9th, 2004, 07:18
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Peterborough, NH
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| Re: Passing of a Hero My Condolences John |
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April 9th, 2004, 07:22
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| Old Skool Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: ??
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| Re: Passing of a Hero Sorry for your loss, John. |
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April 9th, 2004, 07:26
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| Old Skool  Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: DFW
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| Re: Passing of a Hero My prayers are with you and your family, John! |
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April 9th, 2004, 07:56
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| Moderator  Join Date: May 2003 Location: GRR
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| Re: Passing of a Hero Prayers of support for you and your family, John. I'll be thinking of you this Good Friday and Easter. May the promises of this holiday comfort you in your loss. May your father now enjoy his well-deserved eternal rest and joy. Sounds like a wonderful man with a full, rewarding life. We thank the Lord for people like him in all of our lives. Your father and mine are only a few weeks apart in age. My father was born February 15th, 1930. Makes your loss a little more poignant for me. |
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April 9th, 2004, 08:32
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| Old Skool Join Date: May 2003 Location: In the O-zone
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| Re: Passing of a Hero Lesson learned here: DON'T WAIT to go see them. DON'T assume that "there is time." I only saw my dad 2x in March. I could have gone up there any time. I feel horribly guilty about that. |
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April 9th, 2004, 09:24
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| Moderator Join Date: May 2003 Location: GRR
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| Re: Passing of a Hero [ QUOTE ] Lesson learned here: DON'T WAIT to go see them. DON'T assume that "there is time." I only saw my dad 2x in March. I could have gone up there any time. I feel horribly guilty about that. [/ QUOTE ] Don't feel guilty John. Regrets, maybe, but not guilt. Peace to you. |
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April 9th, 2004, 09:27
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| Old Skool  Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Chicago, IL
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| Re: Passing of a Hero My condolences John. I'll say a prayer for him, and for you. |
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April 9th, 2004, 09:27
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Illinois
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| Re: Passing of a Hero You and your family are in my prayers. And try to focus on the positives. You get to see him a few times in March, theres plenty of people that would trade anythign to see someone. |
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April 9th, 2004, 10:00
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Baseball City, USA
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 | Re: Passing of a Hero You and your family are in my prayers. Its tough to watch someone who you remember being so strong fade. |
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April 9th, 2004, 10:35
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| Old Skool Join Date: May 2003 Location: In the O-zone
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| Re: Passing of a Hero Time of death was approximately 12:10pm Eastern Daylight Time. The nurses say his heart faded and he slowly stopped breathing. He was not awake and in no apparent pain. I want to thank you all for your condolences. It means a lot to me. |
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April 9th, 2004, 10:44
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| Moderator Join Date: May 2003 Location: GRR
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| Re: Passing of a Hero Noon on Good Friday. He's in Good Company. May God rest his soul. |
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April 9th, 2004, 11:11
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| Old Skool Join Date: May 2003 Location: In the O-zone
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April 9th, 2004, 11:26
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| Administrator  Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Pinal Airpark
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| Re: Passing of a Hero My deepest condolences for your loss, John. |
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April 9th, 2004, 11:30
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: California (I\'m a hostage) but Michigan is home.
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| Re: Passing of a Hero [ QUOTE ] Noon on Good Friday. He's in Good Company. May God rest his soul. [/ QUOTE ] John, your Pop sounds like a class act to the end. I'll put his name in the Parish prayer book for today. God bless you and your family. Keith |
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April 9th, 2004, 11:51
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| Senior Member  Join Date: May 2003 Location: Home Sweet Home!
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| Re: Passing of a Hero John Condolences my friend. It is very impressive to hear you speak so highly of your Dad, as I am sure he spoke of you. It's all about the legacy we leave to our children not the trust fund. It sounds like your Dad left you and every one that knew him an enviable legacy. Thanks for sharing with us. Jim |
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April 9th, 2004, 12:08
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| Moderator  | Re: Passing of a Hero [ QUOTE ] I hope this is the appropriate forum to post this: [/ QUOTE ] John, there could be no place more appropriate. I am truly sorry to hear of your family's loss. It was indeed touching to read your thoughts and those of others regarding your father. |
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April 9th, 2004, 13:04
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| Old Skool  Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Utopia
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| Re: Passing of a Hero My thoughts are with you and your family, John. I know what it's like to lose a Father, and I know how it can be. After my Father passed, I started trying to beat myself up for not being at home more (I got out of the Marine Corps with 2-years worth of vacation). Just try to remember the good times, and know that your Father isn't suffering. |
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April 9th, 2004, 14:41
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| Agent Smith  | Re: Passing of a Hero I lost my dad back in 1998 and to be quite honest, it was rough, but time helps heal. You never quite realize how smart your father is or how similar you are to him until he passes away. Sincere condolences from Kristie and I. |
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April 9th, 2004, 14:51
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| Shadow Administrator  Join Date: Jul 1998 Location: Between KFCM and KMSP
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| Re: Passing of a Hero My condolences to you, John. After reading about your father, it seems he was a hero to more than just you. Your family will be in my thoughts. |
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April 9th, 2004, 15:15
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Pittsburgh, PA/Ann Arbor, MI
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| Re: Passing of a Hero John- condolences and prayers to you again man...its rough, and you know you got people here to help you get through it... |
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April 9th, 2004, 15:31
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| Agent Smith | Re: Passing of a Hero I think the hardest part for me when my dad passed was that we were each other's heroes. My dad was really proud of me because I set out to do what I said I always wanted to do and had focus. I stayed out of trouble and just knowing that my dad was proud and supportive of me meant the world. I was proud of my dad because he grew up in a horrible social time in Alabama, moved to California to raise a family in a more open society and worked his tail off. He always had the entreprenurial (sp?) spirit and did what was right, not because it was legal or expected, but just that being friendly, helpful and spreading a little sunshine was honorable and the right thing to do. Buying a car, a house, getting married, even trying to figure out how to best cut the lawn brings back fond memories of working with my dad. I guess you could say that for most of my life, my dad was a pickup truck and I was an Australian Shepherd. Wherever that truck went, so did I!  It's going to be difficult and if you want to swap stories or need a little encouragement thru the process, lemme know, seriously. It's been almost six years for me and when it gets a little quiet, it gets a little difficult to this day. But what really helps me is that I still carry around my dads obit in my flight kit so that way he's actually flying with me. Call me a weirdo if you will, but when my father died, it hit like a 200 gigaton thermonuclear bomb and every little thing helps. My dad was terminally ill for about a year and I was racing against the clock so we could both enjoy the experience of me flying my dad on a big jet somewhere. Unfortunately, he beat me!  But take a look in the mirror, both physically and psychologically, your dad will always be with you. Because whether we like it or not, we do become our fathers. |
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April 9th, 2004, 15:43
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| Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Pittsburgh, PA/Ann Arbor, MI
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| Re: Passing of a Hero Doug, my dad has a similar story. My grandfather lost his job when my dad was around 14, and ended up bartending. My dad paid for his own college, car, everything. My grandpa was a big smoker, and thats what took his life (lung cancer). It was hard for my dad, becuase he is a doctor, and knew there was really nothing that could be done. Its a tough part of life, and thats why we have significant others and friends to help us get through it. |
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