girlfriends...

slpilot · January 3rd, 2008, 03:20

god my gf of 4 years broke up with like two weeks ago, right around christmas and already has a new boyfriend. GAHD life sucks some times...

...makes you realize that theres more important things in life than flying

ASpilot2be · January 3rd, 2008, 03:27

Sorry to hear that

slpilot · January 3rd, 2008, 03:31

any of you guys ever get the feeling of not even wanting to go to the airport at the time being after something like this?

mnixon · January 3rd, 2008, 03:50

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Originally Posted by slpilot

god my gf of 4 years broke up with like two weeks ago, right around christmas and already has a new boyfriend. GAHD life sucks some times...

...makes you realize that theres more important things in life than flying

Makes you realize that there are more important things than shady people also. Trust me, you'll look back and thank the skank for doing that to you.

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Originally Posted by slpilot

any of you guys ever get the feeling of not even wanting to go to the airport at the time being after something like this?

All the time, but I do it, it's a job.

slpilot · January 3rd, 2008, 03:54

your probably right, theres a lot of words id like to use to describe her right now but they are not allowed on this website so ill refrain..

mnixon · January 3rd, 2008, 03:57

xactly, give it a month or two and you'll be fine. The best thing you can do is act like she doesn't even exist. If you run into her, make it a point to ignore her. The poo on your shoes means more to you than her, that's the attitude you have to take, and she needs to know it. Oh, beer and easy women are a good fix too.

FatBastard · January 3rd, 2008, 06:25

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Originally Posted by slpilot

god my gf of 4 years broke up with like two weeks ago, right around christmas and already has a new boyfriend. GAHD life sucks some times...

...makes you realize that theres more important things in life than flying

Man I feel for you. Do whatever it takes to get her out of your system. have you ever thought since she got this new guy so quickly, she may have been cheating on you?
Like Mnixon said, don't look back. Women outnumber us 10/1. I'm sure you will find someone better than her.

Hell if she can't stick around for the rough times, you don't need her. Do whatever grief process you have to, but be determined to finish up, and move on to better things. You will, including someone who appreciates you, however test her out first, and remember, take your time to get to know the person first, don't rush. Sounds likeyour EX has a problem with loyalty, and can be treacherous, do you really want someone like that in your backyard?

Take care

bwade210 · January 3rd, 2008, 06:42

I've been in similar shoes before man. All I can say is right now it may seem as if the whole world is messed up and girls totally suck, but you have to realize and one day you will that this girl no matter how good looking or "sweet", she was not someone that deserves you or that you should be with. Trust me...your better off!

slpilot · January 3rd, 2008, 07:07

This forum gives a good boost at a right time. Ive thought many things about her, Ive also learned to stop thinking so much. Thanks for the support guys. Just a crappy way to start a new year, yaa hearrd.

brent p h · January 3rd, 2008, 08:05

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Originally Posted by slpilot

This forum gives a good boost at a right time. Ive thought many things about her, Ive also learned to stop thinking so much. Thanks for the support guys. Just a crappy way to start a new year, yaa hearrd.

Don't feel bad buddy. At 35 I am going through the same thing! AHHHHH nothing a couple nights of barhopping here in Dallas won't cure!

Mattio · January 3rd, 2008, 08:18

Yea man, the best thing to do if you want to have her back in your life is to pretend like you are enjoying life and are busy with other things and other girls. It'll drive her bonkers for you.

On the other hand, the best thing to do regardless of whether you want her back or not is to actually be busy with other things and other girls. Go to the club and try to talk to as many girls as possible, that's what I do

MQAAord · January 3rd, 2008, 08:32

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Originally Posted by FatBastard

Women outnumber us 10/1.

Huh?

Last I checked the population was pretty much 50/50.........

Back to the topic: Sorry that happened. You're better off without her, (breaking up at the holidays? Sheesh). Don't worry, there's plenty of other people out there to meet. Don't stay home cryin' in yer beer. Get out there and do stuff YOU enjoy!

bwade210 · January 3rd, 2008, 09:39

One more thing, and this is the most important thing.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER CALL HER! No matter how great the temptation is. As long as you call she will know that she still has you. Stop calling and she will go crazy herself!

N826AW · January 3rd, 2008, 10:04

Dude go out to the airport and watch airplanes. It's therapeutic.

Seggy · January 3rd, 2008, 10:14

Many fish in the sea man.

Go to Sweden and you will get over it quickly.

NotCoolEnufToFly · January 3rd, 2008, 10:16

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Originally Posted by mnixon

Makes you realize that there are more important things than shady people also. Trust me, you'll look back and thank the skank for doing that to you.

All the time, but I do it, it's a job.

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Originally Posted by FatBastard

Man I feel for you. Do whatever it takes to get her out of your system. have you ever thought since she got this new guy so quickly, she may have been cheating on you?

Hell if she can't stick around for the rough times, you don't need her.

Wow, you guys must have never broke up with anyone?!

I understand he's feeling really bad and he's hurt right now, so we're all trying to support him and help him see that there are going to be brighter days but why does that always have to include trash talk about someone we don't know?

I don't know her either so I'm not necessarily defending her, maybe she is a horrible person, who knows, but the point is that it happens, people break up. It's better than continuing on in a relationship she may not have been happy in and ending up married with a couple kids and being miserable her whole life, making his life miserable too right? And who's business is it if she started dating someone a week after they broke up. She broke up with him. He no longer gets a say. That doesn't mean she was cheating and it doesn't matter anymore anyways, so no need to focus on it. It may be a coping mechanism for her just the same as how you all were giving him the advice of getting back out there and dating other women. I've broke up with people I loved before because I knew that there was no way in hell the relationship could ever work. Love isn't the only thing needed to make a good life with someone. So who knows maybe the breakup hurt her too and she's out there trying to ease the pain. I don't know what her reason or motives are for it, but my point is, neither do you guys. And I'm sure none of you have broke up with someone and found yourself out with another girl a couple of months later? Does that make you "shady" "skanks???"

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Originally Posted by Mattio

Yea man, the best thing to do if you want to have her back in your life is to pretend like you are enjoying life and are busy with other things and other girls. It'll drive her bonkers for you.

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Originally Posted by bwade210

One more thing, and this is the most important thing.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER CALL HER! No matter how great the temptation is. As long as you call she will know that she still has you. Stop calling and she will go crazy herself!

Don't ever let your focus be making her miserable because you'll just be making yourself miserable in the meantime. As long as your reason for not calling and finding other women to date are to make her miserable, SHE is still your focus and you won't heal. YOU be your focus. Do those things because it's best for you. Picking at a scab just makes the wound heal slower. The more you worry about her the harder it'll be. Not saying you can't be sad or think about her...

Buzo · January 3rd, 2008, 10:36

I wanted to send my ex a thank you card, but my wife said it was too mean.

ajf005 · January 3rd, 2008, 10:38

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Originally Posted by bwade210

One more thing, and this is the most important thing.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER CALL HER! No matter how great the temptation is. As long as you call she will know that she still has you. Stop calling and she will go crazy herself!

I second that! Take her number out of your phone (not that you don't already have it memorized) it will prevent drunk dials b/c either you cant remember it at the time or you will think about how you shouldn't be calling her. Works like a charm

skidz · January 3rd, 2008, 10:45

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Originally Posted by slpilot

god my gf of 4 years broke up with like two weeks ago, right around christmas and already has a new boyfriend. GAHD life sucks some times...

...makes you realize that theres more important things in life than flying

I'm sorry to hear that man, I know how it feels. Since you've been together for so long, I assume you've had a good relationship, perhaps the kind of relationship she won't find again, so try to look at it as her loss and not yours.

killbilly · January 3rd, 2008, 10:48

Doors close. Others open.

Doug Taylor · January 3rd, 2008, 11:08

This might sound a bit brash, but good riddance.

Better to know she's like "that" now, rather than later.

This time, you didn't lose a house, half the retirement and alimony.

jml2992 · January 3rd, 2008, 11:20

Don't let this stuff get to you man. You still have two arms, two legs, and a heartbeat...that means two things. You could get a job flying and you are most likely the next target for Lindsey Lohan to make out with. Things are looking up for you. I'm guessing you are a young fella that just ran into a wealth of free time and now have the funds to get around to a little more of that flyin'. Buck up, lil camper!

mikecweb · January 3rd, 2008, 11:30

This should be a time for celebration. You're single again.
Whose calling the stripper? I'll get the keg! Cigars anyone?

I_Money · January 3rd, 2008, 12:51

I would personally not take relationship advise from pilots - unless it is a mail order bride.

cencal83406 · January 3rd, 2008, 13:08

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Originally Posted by slpilot

god my gf of 4 years broke up with like two weeks ago, right around christmas and already has a new boyfriend. GAHD life sucks some times...

...makes you realize that theres more important things in life than flying

My girlfriend of just over a year broke up with me just when I was about to start the sim portion of training. She's already engaged to a new guy whom she happened to decide she wanted to go out with after she broke up me. Awesome.