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October 12th, 2007, 07:16
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| Moderator  |  Witnessing a Death... To the parents of young children out in JC Land, have any of your kids witnessed a death? Last evening after my sons fb game we stuck around for the second game. Shortly after it had started some people noticed an older gentleman laying in the endzone. That was odd to say the least. A few people rushed over, called 911, and the medics arrived and immediately started working him. My wife who happened to be at the game and works as a paramedic for the hospital that responded started helping as well. Anyhow my kids saw the commotion and were watching from afar as they continued their attempts at reviving him. The gentleman (70+) had a heart attack and did not make it  . It really weirded out my kids....I don't think my youngest grasped all that was happening, but my 9 yr old didn't want to go to sleep. He was asking about, "what if my heart stops....., etc..."What if anything could you do to help calm their fears....I tried talking with my son, but he wanted no part of it... 
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October 12th, 2007, 10:15
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| Old Skool Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: OH or is it MX??
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 | Re: Witnessing a Death... Sorry to hear that man. Sad to say this way, but better to see that then the results of a bad accident or something. That would be more traumatic. Be there for the kids and answer any questions they have as honest as you can (for their age). I can say that it has the possibility of changing their thoughts on death and bring it more to light then what they see on TV/Gaming. You could play up the helpers and coming to the aid of a stranger in need. Beware of sleepless nights and the notice of other "dead" things (birds, bugs, etc.). Get them help as needed. I didn't witness a death as a child, but had the unfortant to find a dead body of a high schooler when I was in 4th grade, on school property. Teachers wouldnt even believe me until I found the one that her husband work with my father. Many sleepless nights after that. It is still VERY visable in my mind, and its been MANY years. |
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October 12th, 2007, 11:51
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: That one
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| Re: Witnessing a Death... Just keep talking to them about it. Eventually your son that didn't want to talk with you will come around. I'm sure they are talking with their friends about it too. It'll get better - but its a traumatic experience the first time. Not the same as viewing a body in a casket.
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