Why... - Page 2

SeatClutcher · August 8th, 2007, 22:39

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Originally Posted by TheWife

I can't relate to not wanting kids.

But I don't think you have to relate to something, in order to respect it.

(Not saying YOU weren't, just in general, ya know.)

I said I couldn't relate because I'm a woman, and those prior commented that maybe they couldn't relate because they're men.

Just pointing out that, man or woman, you'll relate or you won't.

(Respect it, sure. Both ways.)

TheWife · August 8th, 2007, 23:51

I know that's why you were saying it.

Maximillian_Jenius · August 9th, 2007, 00:58

Believe it or not, I am listening and yes learning. Even my mom said that it's best that she put her priorities in order, and that is to care for her child.

I can see that...just can't see giving up ones career forever. When the kid becomes school age, time to go back to work. Strictly my opinion.

Pam's brother Roy, (my cousin, duh!) and his wife agreed on two kids. The first wasn't planned. The second was. He was in the marines when they met, she was in school, and working FT. He wanted them to be close in age so they are two years apart. She agreed because it would afford her less time out of school vs. if they were spread apart in age.

She took off from being a college student to be a FT mother. The youngest started school two years ago, and she is now working PT and going back to school to be a teacher.

I like that, I like that alot. But everyones situation is different, YMMV!

Doug Taylor · August 9th, 2007, 01:02

I've got two older brothers that are two years apart... I'm not sure if it made much of a difference beyond fighting over chicks.

I was the cute "younger brother" giggity giggity giggity GIGGITY gooo... aw'right!

bunghole · August 9th, 2007, 03:53

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Originally Posted by Doug Taylor

I've got two older brothers that are two years apart... I'm not sure if it made much of a difference beyond fighting over chicks.

I was the cute "younger brother" giggity giggity giggity GIGGITY gooo... aw'right!

Cute...huh?

kellwolf · August 9th, 2007, 12:02

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Originally Posted by Maximillian_Jenius

I can see that...just can't see giving up ones career forever. When the kid becomes school age, time to go back to work. Strictly my opinion.

Someone once told me that I would understand better once I had kids. I thought that was BS. Guess what? It's not. I can totally see someone giving up their career to be a stay out home mom/dad. Even when the kid starts going to school, there's still plenty of stuff that needs to be done around the house. Laundry, yard work, bills, cleaning, cooking, errands. Your time to do those things gets SERIOUSLY reduced once you have kids. I used to work those in when I could before we had Gavin. Now, even that little bit of time is done. Those things you used to do on weekends like the yard, etc. It gets tougher when you have to chase a drunken midget around, too. Sometimes, after that, you're just too damn tired to do some of the stuff that needs to be done. Toss a 9-5 job in there, and it's worse. Plus, school is on a different schedule than work most of the time. So, you're back to the day care aspect again.

Factor in that some schools aren't very good education builders, despite all the No Child Left Behind stuff. NOW you're trying to find a good school to match your school age kid. This is why some parents not only give up their careers, but even home school their kids. That's what we're leaning towards right now.

Basically, what you have to accept is the needs of the child trump your own needs. If it's better for the kid in the long run for you to give up your career, then so be it.