not another pilot divorce

LFC · February 5th, 2005, 20:31

Most older pilots seem to be divorced or working on there second or third marriage. Well my friends parents (dad flies for Delta) have been together for awhile and I always saw them and was like 'oh well if they can do it, then I'm sure when I meet someone down the line I can do it to!' Sorta like an inspirational thing. Well turns out they finally decided to get a divorce. FRiiiiiick. What is the rate for pilots and divorce? It's kinda discouraging.

MQAAord · February 5th, 2005, 20:40

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Probably about 50%. Same as everybody else.

EatSleepFly · February 5th, 2005, 21:25

Exactly. Just a wild ass guess here, but I would suspect that of all the pilots that have gotten divorced, "aviation" wasn't the primary cause of a good chunk of them.

My parents were married for 23 years before they went their seperate ways a couple years ago. It happens.

Do you know for sure that their divorce was caused by aviation? There could be a million other reaons.

Doug Taylor · February 5th, 2005, 22:55

Precisely, that's one of my pet peeves. Whenever anyone asks me about flight attendants and extramarital sex, I like to ask "So, are you banging your secretary?"

jonnyb · February 5th, 2005, 22:58

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Whatever you make it dude. Marry the right girl and don't be an idiot. That's about the best advice I can give.

BCTAv8r · February 6th, 2005, 01:47

Well a lot of people these days get divorced on really stupid things. I think I got more friends whose parents are divorced than not.

kellwolf · February 6th, 2005, 03:28

A lot of people get married for really stupid reasons, so it only stands to reason that they'll get divorced for stupid reasons. I mean, come on. J Lo is considered a role model for some women.....

Mr_Creepy · February 6th, 2005, 08:39

MQ I think the pilot rate may be a little higher than 50%. Let me make that the aviation rate.

It has nothing to do with the pilot-flight attendant myth either, it just has to do with the "hobo" lifestyle of being away from home the majority of the time. Not many people can adapt to that situation.

It sounds like you and your husband have, and that is awesome. I know it would be an incredible stress on me and my relationship with my family if I had to go back on the road with an airline.

Doug Taylor · February 6th, 2005, 11:04

J Lo's on what, #5? But some folks are trying to use politics to "protect marriage"?

Kristie · February 6th, 2005, 20:18

Keep in mind that the main reasons for the aviation divorce rate usually has to do with #1: being away from home all the time and #2: money, #3 trust....the whole cheating thing is way down the list compared to everything else.

the being away from home tends to wear on a lot on family (esp families with children) and it really takes a strong consistent (through the years) commitment to communication, staying best friends and not taking things too seriously to be able to hang through all the years of "change".

Doug Taylor · February 6th, 2005, 20:34

So what are you trying to say, babe?

Kristie · February 6th, 2005, 20:47

ummmm...I forgot to add the "IMO"

FlyChicaga · February 7th, 2005, 00:17

I was reading in a book today that the national divorce rate is 57.7%. That was I think in 1999. Not sure what it is in 2004/2005.

Divorce scares me more than death. I've been pretty bummed out about the "break" that my girlfriend and I are on... I wouldn't want to experience a family separation.

ready2fly · February 7th, 2005, 09:30

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Whatever you make it dude. Marry the right girl and don't be an idiot. That's about the best advice I can give.

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Amen! Well said, Sean! Could not have said it better!

mtsu_av8er · February 7th, 2005, 20:12

Whatever you do, make sure that you marry the chick so that you can take half of her ##### when she decides to le. . .

Sorry.

kellwolf · February 7th, 2005, 22:31

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I second Stan on that one. I scored majorly when I married my wife.

Doug Taylor · February 8th, 2005, 00:32

Lloyd, ya killing me tonight!

mtsu_av8er · February 8th, 2005, 12:36

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Oh, regrets. . .

Doug Taylor · February 8th, 2005, 15:37

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I second Stan on that one. I scored majorly when I married my wife.

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Well, you're supposed to! It's all legal and perfectly acceptable in the eyes of the law and most Western-centric religious philosophies!

And traditional!

Oh, wait... I don't think you meant what I thought you meant....Carry on!

kellwolf · February 8th, 2005, 17:31

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Well, you're supposed to! It's all legal and perfectly acceptable in the eyes of the law and most Western-centric religious philosophies!

And traditional!

Oh, wait... I don't think you meant what I thought you meant....Carry on!

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No, then I would've said "I scored majorly BEFORE I married my wife." I'm an "early and often" advocate.

Doug Taylor · February 8th, 2005, 18:04

There's this little switch that flips when the ring goes on, kinda weird eh?

Kristie · February 8th, 2005, 18:44

a switch? is that a daily "switch" or a "OMG, i'm married now" switch?

kellwolf · February 8th, 2005, 22:23

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There's this little switch that flips when the ring goes on, kinda weird eh?

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I think I flipped the switch too many times. Now it's broken for a couple of months......

Athena · February 11th, 2005, 04:04

I think it is ironic that my aviation education was one of the main reasons my last relationship (13 year friendship 3 years dating) went into the dumper and now I can't fly. Weeded that one out of the flowerbed. Much cheaper than divorce. Although the bastard got the dogs.

MikeD · February 20th, 2005, 17:59

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I think it is ironic that my aviation education was one of the main reasons my last relationship (13 year friendship 3 years dating) went into the dumper and now I can't fly. Weeded that one out of the flowerbed. Much cheaper than divorce. Although the bastard got the dogs.

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So tell us how you really feel?

I'd agree that the being away from home thing for families of airline pilots is a tough thing to have to deal with, but consider that we're talking at most, a week or so away from your significant other. That's not too bad, IMO, in comparison to say Jim/C650s situation...now THAT'S time away!

To me, it's not so much the time away that would be tough, but the constant commuting I would think would get old. Then again, being away for one longer period of time every year or so, might be easier than being gone every other week for a week or so, who knows.

But that's the nature of the different beasts, I suppose......both jobs difficult in their own ways.