not another pilot divorce - Page 4

JaceTheAce · April 29th, 2005, 12:51

I have the perfect solution to stopping divorce!

Ban gay marriage so that straight marriage is protected. Oh my gaud, if those two men get married it will turn me to divorce my wife and marry a man! Oh my!

LOL...anyway...I think that in some relationships being away from the spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend may help. Some people like to be alone for a while and have space from their spouses. I know of some relationships that are like that.

USMC-SGT · May 24th, 2006, 13:45

I have thought about this alot (A.I.D.S) and i think that from what i have seen with divorce being that the Marine Corps has a divorce rate that competes very closely to the airlines if not surpasses it. From what i have seen is people getting married very young and than just not being able to adapt and grow up to all of the changes of life with their spouse they both just grow up at different paces and in different ways. compound that with constant 7-14 month deployments and it just makes the problem worse. SO..getting to my point if a marriage is not built on a solid foundation to begin with than the odds of it surviving unless the couple learns to grow together are slim. Not to mention divorce is easy, it seems now a days people are just as likely to get divorced than actually seek help for their relationships. It worries me at times as when i get out of the Corps i am going to pursue 135 cargo or regional airline work and i dont really want to be away from my wife any more but one thing that i do know is that with two 12 month deployments i know that she is strong and able to handle the stresses of being alone, and there is a big difference from being alone for that period of time and being alone for 4 days while your husband is in a different state, however still able to communicate fairly reguarly. Anyway those are my thoughts. I think it can be done it just requires work and a stable foundation.

as for the flight attendant myth...im not there so i dont know but i think that with flight attendants typically being younger attractive women and them staying at hotels on overnights with pilots that things could lead to other things and............... but thats only if you are weak. cheaters will cheat and those who do not have it in them will be faithful and come home to their wives.

amorris311 · May 25th, 2006, 23:04

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Originally Posted by USMC-SGT

I have thought about this alot (A.I.D.S) and i think that from what i have seen with divorce being that the Marine Corps has a divorce rate that competes very closely to the airlines if not surpasses it. From what i have seen is people getting married very young and than just not being able to adapt and grow up to all of the changes of life with their spouse they both just grow up at different paces and in different ways. compound that with constant 7-14 month deployments and it just makes the problem worse. SO..getting to my point if a marriage is not built on a solid foundation to begin with than the odds of it surviving unless the couple learns to grow together are slim. Not to mention divorce is easy, it seems now a days people are just as likely to get divorced than actually seek help for their relationships. It worries me at times as when i get out of the Corps i am going to pursue 135 cargo or regional airline work and i dont really want to be away from my wife any more but one thing that i do know is that with two 12 month deployments i know that she is strong and able to handle the stresses of being alone, and there is a big difference from being alone for that period of time and being alone for 4 days while your husband is in a different state, however still able to communicate fairly reguarly. Anyway those are my thoughts. I think it can be done it just requires work and a stable foundation.

as for the flight attendant myth...im not there so i dont know but i think that with flight attendants typically being younger attractive women and them staying at hotels on overnights with pilots that things could lead to other things and............... but thats only if you are weak. cheaters will cheat and those who do not have it in them will be faithful and come home to their wives.

that was well said.

mbtrebbe · October 10th, 2006, 16:49

only problem with that is trust. My last gf I did NOTHING wrong and nothing to make her lose trust but I told her the other pilot and I went out for a few beers at the bar and she couldnt even handle that. You have to have a fairly independent woman at home to be able to deal with it.

Kristie · October 10th, 2006, 17:01

true dat!! she's got to be strong enough to handle "go with the flow" situations!

tleigh517 · October 11th, 2006, 00:08

It must be hard to be the spouse of either a military person or a pilot. The thought of my man being gone for an extended period of time would drive me insane......not to mention the "frustration" on both parts. I've had pilots in my family and I know they have all had affairs. Not all have ended in divorce though and in the end, the one that stayed, was sure happy to spend his paychecks....no matter what,or who, he was doing. I also think it's with a lot of relationships these days. The divorce rate is so high. Mostpeople just jump into marriage and do it at the courthouse. No wonder they don't last!

frog_flyer · October 12th, 2006, 22:28

military divorce rate is the worst.

moving every 3 years + the deployments...

juskl · October 14th, 2006, 13:57

Anymore, I can just put it this way, some things work out and some don't. I was a Police Officer for 13 years, left two months ago to finish my CFI, and yes in the process of getting Divorced.

I can tell you that any job where stess is the number one component, with alot of us Alpha Males and Females involved in it, will set up a situation for the Divorce to occur. Hell, I didn't even realize how, "emotionally unavailable" I became, until she moved out. Not that that was the only cause for the split (no affairs involved thank God), but marriage generally becomes a victim to the job.

And I am not condoning the affair situation by any means, but when you work in that environment long enough with close friends of the opposite sex in close quarters, well...... things happen.

When I was with the Police Department, I would sometimes work 60 hour weeks in some pretty tough and stressful (not to mention emotionally charged) situations. It was fellow coworkers that I was sharing those times with, and you get very close to one another (can't help but to)....

I was never in the military, but I am sure that those that are (especially in battle zones), can relate to the closeness and bonding that occurs with your buddies in that environment. This won't be repeated with a significant other due to the situational difference. Unless that spouse or significant other were in the day to day stress and danger with the husband or wife involved...... Just my experience....

FatBastard · October 15th, 2006, 09:12

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Originally Posted by Doug Taylor

Crabs if you're lucky! Or at least you'll look like a jackass to your FO: "Yeah, I go to church every sunday, think Janet Jackson should have went to jail for the wardrobe mal'HOLY crap look at the juggs on THAT one! That reminds me of when I was TDY in the Phillipines..."

Doug, that is a good one!! LOL!!!!

FatBastard · October 15th, 2006, 09:20

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Originally Posted by FlyChicaga

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Bitter? Nah that's the wrong word. If you are referring to my take on professional aviation careers, then the proper term is "experienced and slightly jaded." I see people talking about "quality of life" in another thread, about whether to upgrade to turboprop or stay jet FO. My friends, you do not know what quality of life is until you own your own business! True QOL comes when you make your own decisions each day, and sleep where you want to each night. It may not be total security, but it certainly is freedom.

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Don't you just hate women that do that? They perpetrate all this stuff on thier spouse, then try to make em look bad for thier own selfish reasons. Like Doug said, mentally as well as physically abusive people SUCK!!

This sounds like an Amway commercial.