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January 9th, 2007, 05:33
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| Newbie Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 16
|  Do it or no! Well, this is my situation.I am 31, married, working for IBM in Germany dreaming of being a pilot since ever. When I was young and stupid and listen to my parents,went to collage study business. Then I was in US for training and assignment ,got back and I met this wonderful girl,really she is an angel,smart,nice you do not get much like these anymore. Problem is that it is not possible to pursuit aviation career in Europe in my age or it would be extremely expansive paying for the training +type exam= 100 000 Euros and no guarantee to get job! Of course my wife diary with that! So it seems to me that there is only chance for me to be a pilot,to get together with my ex-girlfriend (leave my wife) marry her to get a green card and than go through whole training to get CFI and so one....What would you do? Should I go after my dreams no matter what or should I stay with my wife and have a good family life but never be happy professional ?  |
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January 9th, 2007, 07:07
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Everywhere
Posts: 1,108
| Re: Do it or no! I wouldn't leave your wife to pursue aviation. It is greta and all, but if you are happy, stay there. Why can't you and your wife move to the US for your training? |
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January 9th, 2007, 07:19
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| Newbie Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 16
| Re: Do it or no! She is very close to her family so she does not want to live in states.... |
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January 9th, 2007, 09:49
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Memphis
Posts: 578
 | Re: Do it or no! Dont leave your wife! Thats foolish! There are programs that flight schools in the states offer to foreign students. You can come here and get your training without having to go through the mess of getting a green card....The internet is a great tool so just look on there |
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January 9th, 2007, 11:40
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| Senior Member  Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Phoenix, AZ
Posts: 496
| Re: Do it or no! Doesn't make sense to me to leave your wife that you seem pretty happy with, just to get some flying time. Maybe you could check into Sabena's school or Oxford, in AZ.....they all do the JAA certs so you could return home when done. (I think) |
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January 9th, 2007, 15:36
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| Old Skool  Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In my apartment.
Posts: 2,949
| Re: Do it or no! I think you should do whatever is most important to you. If you would consider leaving your wife to fly, then obviously flying means more...which means maybe you shouldn't be with her. ...just saying...
__________________  "As a skydiving pilot, you're flying to 10,000 feet, dropping pilots - or skydivers, whatever...drop pilots, too; might make the world a better place..." - Ian J. Blog |
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January 10th, 2007, 14:40
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| Junior Member  Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: KSTP
Posts: 231
  | Re: Do it or no! Quote:
In all seriousness, I do know that Europeans come to the U.S. temporarily to slam out flight training, and then they move back home. Maybe that's a possibility for you? Unfortunately, I can't say much about FAA vs. JAA (?) training, although I've heard that the FAA's is substandard. -C. | |
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January 10th, 2007, 15:15
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| Old Skool Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In my apartment.
Posts: 2,949
| Re: Do it or no! Quote:
Lifelong dream Love hm. (Love for self? love for other? can't love someone else if you don't properly love yourself, and then there is the nagging little thing about this being pretty much the only life you've got, so you'd better make it a good one...)
__________________ "As a skydiving pilot, you're flying to 10,000 feet, dropping pilots - or skydivers, whatever...drop pilots, too; might make the world a better place..." - Ian J. Blog | |
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January 11th, 2007, 02:45
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| Junior Member  Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Northern California
Posts: 229
| Re: Do it or no! Quote:
What if the training doesn't work out for whatever reason? What if you don't qualify medically? What if you can't get a job after flight training? What if you get a job as a pilot but it's not what you expected? My suggestion would be this: come to the States for a holiday, do some flights for fun, mabye get the private license if it's a long enough holiday. If you still like it, then you can return to the States for a few months to pursue advanced JAA training (there is a European/JAA subforum as I'm sure you've seen), and then return home when you're done. Best of luck to you. | |
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January 12th, 2007, 01:22
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| Senior Member  Join Date: May 2006 Location: Union, Kentucky/ Burleson, Texas
Posts: 601
| Re: Do it or no! Not to be mean or anything. But marriage is a commitment that almost 50% of Americans do not understand anymore. You went before your family and her family and God and said "I do", which means forever. So if you really mean that, then you will stay with her even though it seems you have the aviation "bug". This "bug" is making you even consider leaving your wife. If your wife is committed to you, then she will go to the States with you to train for a little while. If anything it will be an adventure for the two of you. Train, then move back and get an airline job. If she really doesn't want to go that bad, then stay with your IBM job. Stay with your wife and family. I would definitely reconsider leaving your wife though... even if it is for flying. |
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January 12th, 2007, 07:14
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| Old Skool Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In my apartment.
Posts: 2,949
| Re: Do it or no! Marriage forever NO MATTER WHAT? *shudder*
__________________ "As a skydiving pilot, you're flying to 10,000 feet, dropping pilots - or skydivers, whatever...drop pilots, too; might make the world a better place..." - Ian J. Blog |
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