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Originally Posted by MQAAord  I highly recommend waiting to get too "attached" until the divorce is final.
Seriously.
Love him, support him through the divorce, but keep your own emotional distance until the papers are signed & filed. Make sure that it's really going to happen and that he's not just feeding you a line and stringing you along. Unless you're okay with being the "other woman", which is a whole other ball game......
A good friend of mine got involved with a military pilot who's marriage was "on the rocks". She swore up one side and down the other that his marriage was over, it was just waiting to be finalized, he wasn't "with" her anymore, blah blah blah. He was lying. His wife had no idea anything was "wrong" with their marriage. By the time my friend found this out, she was in WAAAAAY too deep with the guy, no divorce was happening, and she was the "other woman" to a married guy who wasn't really going to leave his wife. Someone else got nosey, starting calling the guys wife, she found out about everything, and it just started a whole ####-storm. I haven't even heard from her in almost a year, so I don't know how it ended (or if it's even ended yet).
Do yourself a favor and demand that the divorce be final before you get involved! |
Holy schmokes??? DEMAND? Ever heard the saying "the hungry don't get fed?" If she DEMANDS that the divorce be final it WILL scare the guy away and makes her seem like a psychotic nut. I understand feelings are involved but last thing she wants to do is try to be in the middle of their affairs or be a "homewrecker" so to speak.
To the threadmaker, if you are interested i feel for you. My advice is to move on with your life. It is good news that you got over your illness and you can now venture on to bigger and better things. Some things were never meant to be, you're only shooting yourself in the arse if you get involved with his marital problems.