[mattp1803]

Originally Posted by powellgal

I completely understand your dilemma... I have learned however, that as much as you respect family (yours and hers) you cannot please everyone and you two should continue on in your respective plan. It's not fair for her brother to expect you to change YOUR plans because he never went through with the formalities until now. And... if I was her brother's girlfriend, I'd be pretty upset if the only reason he was ready to marry me now was because he was in competition for who was going to get around to it first.

Maybe I'm supposed to be telling you to wait 6 months and everything will be fine, but if you start now with letting them tell you when you get married, before you know it, they're going to get mad at you when you get pregnant before they do and then life will always be a competition.

I couldn't have said it better myself!