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Originally Posted by SteveC  
Do NOT get involved with him right now. Tell him he can call you 6 months after the divorce is final, and not a minute earlier. Then move on with your life.
Your presence in his current situation changes the dynamics of what he is going through. It is complicated, but you need to be aware that most of the changes that you cause (unknowingly!) are not conducive to the two of you having a successful relationship in the future. Read that last sentence again, it's important.
This is one of those times when you need to let your brain overrule your heart. |
I third that motion. I would even venture to say I would wait a FULL YEAR. Sure, it seems like a long time, but in the game of life, that is a drop in the bucket. He will need to get the divorce and bitterness out of his system...trust me on this. Been there, done that. Statistics tell us that subsequent marriages have higher failure rates and I would also add that those that get involved in such a short time after a failed marriage that the numbers are even higher.