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Originally Posted by SteveC  
Do NOT get involved with him right now. Tell him he can call you 6 months after the divorce is final, and not a minute earlier. Then move on with your life.
Your presence in his current situation changes the dynamics of what he is going through. It is complicated, but you need to be aware that most of the changes that you cause (unknowingly!) are not conducive to the two of you having a successful relationship in the future. Read that last sentence again, it's important.
This is one of those times when you need to let your brain overrule your heart. |
agreed . . .
Remember, in order to have a successful relationship, it takes two (2!) whole and balanced people. Once he is finished with his relationship, he will need some time to come back into balance. Additionally, if you get involved before he is married, there will (in most cases) be a long term question about fidilety. (If he cheated on her, he could cheat on me?!?)is just one of the questions that could get you spinning down the road.
Good luck, and you know the right thing to do.
