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Originally Posted by Doug Taylor  I'm the last guy to give out relationship advice, but since you asked, here goes.
And your mileage may vary...
I wouldn't bother chasing her around. Be a less available, don't always pick up the phone when she calls and see what she does.
If she doesn't make any effort to get in contact with you, well that's what she was looking for.
Most importantly, what do YOU want? What are YOUR needs? Is the relationship fulfilling those? If not, cut bait before either of you thinks marriage, then a house, and then kids are going to fix it.
Usually, whenever I gave a lady the "I need a break" talk, to me, that meant that "Well, I need to go chase tail, but I want to hedge my bets by not completely breaking up. If it doesn't work out, I'll be back, but if it does, sayonara!" |
Please do this!! Great advice. Me and my girlfriend were in this EXACT situation recently. So, I didnt answer the phone or call her, I really sort of cut her off, though it was hard as heck. She was the one the whole time that "needed a break" , not me. I questioned and questioned her about it being somebody else, but she said no. It could or it couldnt be, who knows but thats the reality of it. However, the MINUTE I appeard to be "over" her or seemed to be talking to someone else and forgetting about her, she came back in full force.
It might be hard but you can do this. When she calls, dont answer. When you are not busy, go do something like hang out with friends or work out. Resist the temptation to call, especially when you've been drinking
(thats a hard one). If you guys are as serious as you say you are, when she realizes this, and that you might be moving on she might FLY back to you quicker than you know it. If not, hey over time you would have made yourself a stronger person. O, and its not against the law to talk to other women too, remember that. You didnt want this break, she did. If she's out there looking around, do the same yourself.
Jesse