I'd have told girl no.2 to eat ****.
You're in Atlanta now, where everybody is, or is related to, or knows someone who is an airline employee. There are pilots everywhere. No one is impressed by it, and as in your situation, it has the opposite effect.
Velocipede's right. Don't get into a serious relationship with an FA! Rather, have them hook you up with pax!
Sorry I didn't have any actual advice for you. Try match.com maybe. I know a lot of pilots who've used it with success because the only women they meet on a daily basis are at the workplace, and those are the only women they never want to date. I'm guessing they have a profile thing on there, where you can write in what you do. That way, the ones who do bite know the situation before hand and probably won't have a problem with it.