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Originally Posted by N8081G  This could be a sensitive topic for some people on here and a lot of you will disagree with what i am saying but i just want to clarify that at this point in my life i don't have time for committments or anything serious. What i am talking about works for me in the dating scene with the intentions of not taking it any furthur than a casual relationship..
Look, it is true that there are people out there who simply aren't worth your time, however, there are times when it is your own damn fault that the person left you instead of claiming them to not worth your time. If you keep on getting disappointed in relationships and if someone constantly cheats on you, maybe it is YOU who needs to change and make yourself into a better person instead of being a pushover. What i am saying is people often rely on fate and destiny to bring them a significant other and if they are single, they would say that it was the way it was meant to be..or that i have given up hope on men/women. You have heard these before. |
First: Please quit telling me what I have and haven't experienced before, and what I have and haven't heard before with comments like:
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ever assume you know what other people have seen or experienced.
Phrases like that come off as very condescending and arrogant.
Second: By your first paragraph, it sounds like you're doing exactly what I talked about. Living your life to make yourself happy. You say you're not ready for a long-term or committed thing. That's fine, that's where you're at in your life!
Third: You're talking about a few different things in the second paragraph, talking about being left, about being cheated on, and about believing in fate and that it "wasn't meant to be". I think those things are totally dependent on the individual. Some people actually (knowingly or not) seek out people who do not make healthy relationship partners.
Again it comes back to each person living their life ultimately for themself, and being happy with themSELF at the end of the day. If one finds themself unhappy with their life situation, then a change needs to be made.
So, I think we do actually agree
Even if we may be saying it just a bit differently.