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Originally Posted by N8081G  Not necessarily. Ever been in a situation when you and someone clicked at first, then after a couple of weeks the two of you started to drift apart and things were never the same as they used to? Of course you have. Some of the reasons why a girl would lose her interest in a guy often results in him calling her too much, being extra needy or clingy, showering her with all sorts of presents, talking about long term already and you barely know her for like a week and doing too much nice things. As far as i know, a woman isn't attracted to a guy when he is always too nice to her.. and i am not saying that the guy needs to be an abusive jerk (even though we all know jerks get their way) but if the guy would take the time to improve himself and have a personality that woman love then game is over. Most guys are just plain boring and that in itself is a turnoff.
It is not about playing mind games really, its about improving yourself and being someone who gets it. People often live their lives lonely and trying to make excuses by saying..oh he/she wasn't the right one for me, or maybe he/she isn't worth my time.. Pretty awful. |
I've been pretty happily married for 6 years now. With no head games.
The key is
be yourself and act in ways that make
you happy. If you do that, you're not living your life to control the feelings of others, which is what you're trying to do if you play "head games" like not calling or not paying her attention to "make" her want you more.
I actually think we may (maybe?) be saying a similar thing, though I found your last sentence confusing. I dated guys who
weren't the right one for me, and ones who most decidedly WEREN'T worth my time! That doesn't make me pathetic, it just means those relationships weren't meant to last. Not all are.