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TheWife · January 10th, 2004, 11:17

If any of you could discuss this topic in a way that you are just passing along your opinion and insight, then at some point it might be well received. When people are already decided on something, the best thing you can do is say "that's great, but did you consider....." Do you really think calling people names, saying you are dumbfounded, etc. is going to have any kind of positive effect on the person you are trying to "help"? You also need to understand that if people always took all the advice they were given, nothing would ever change or improve. If we all did exactly what our parents told us to do a lot of us would have quite different lives. Some better, some worse. Don't take it so personally when someone doesn't say "holy crap I see the light, you have saved me from the evil path I was on oh thank you mighty wise one." I am NOT discounting the wisdom and experience that you all have. I KNOW you have BTDT and have great insight about many things. But I also know that it is human nature to be defensive when some one insults you, and to find your own path based on the guidance from others and your own feelings, and not to conform to exactly what every one tells you to do. You all told my husband to forget flight schools and stick to the FBO. Well we tried to go to a flight school but it didn't work out, not because we didn't want it to. So, here he is, at the FBO, four months later, with a whole whopping 20 more hours then he had four months ago. I am glad that he is here because it didn't work and not because we listened to your advice. If we had just said forget FSI and stuck to the FBO at your suggestion-I'd feel like we shouldn't have listened and we'd never know what might have been. So no matter how wise or insightful any of you are, your answers aren't right for everyone. And there is nothing wrong with that!!!

January 10th, 2004, 11:17	#180
TheWife Old Skool Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Utah Posts: 4,180	Re: Ameriflight If any of you could discuss this topic in a way that you are just passing along your opinion and insight, then at some point it might be well received. When people are already decided on something, the best thing you can do is say "that's great, but did you consider....." Do you really think calling people names, saying you are dumbfounded, etc. is going to have any kind of positive effect on the person you are trying to "help"? You also need to understand that if people always took all the advice they were given, nothing would ever change or improve. If we all did exactly what our parents told us to do a lot of us would have quite different lives. Some better, some worse. Don't take it so personally when someone doesn't say "holy crap I see the light, you have saved me from the evil path I was on oh thank you mighty wise one." I am NOT discounting the wisdom and experience that you all have. I KNOW you have BTDT and have great insight about many things. But I also know that it is human nature to be defensive when some one insults you, and to find your own path based on the guidance from others and your own feelings, and not to conform to exactly what every one tells you to do. You all told my husband to forget flight schools and stick to the FBO. Well we tried to go to a flight school but it didn't work out, not because we didn't want it to. So, here he is, at the FBO, four months later, with a whole whopping 20 more hours then he had four months ago. I am glad that he is here because it didn't work and not because we listened to your advice. If we had just said forget FSI and stuck to the FBO at your suggestion-I'd feel like we shouldn't have listened and we'd never know what might have been. So no matter how wise or insightful any of you are, your answers aren't right for everyone. And there is nothing wrong with that!!!