Originally Posted by MikeOH58  SLP, i'm sorry to hear bro...Dig up my post in this forum that I wrote a couple days ago called "the higher road". I just went through a devestating break up, and I know how you feel. But ya gotta keep going on.
It hurts...It hurts really bad, but know you are not the only one to experience this pain. For the past couple weeks i've felt like a walking zombie. I'd try and keep my daily routine, but there was nothing inside me. I wore a fake smile, and sometime last week I decided to tell myself, I dont want to live like this anymore. It sucks, but it is what it is, and you have to accept it, and take the positive things you have learned, and continue on with your life. Don't look back in anger. Forgive her; as hard as it may be, and continue on.
Whatever you do, don't call her and bioch her out. She prolly deserves to hear it, but be the bigger man, and hold back that anger and aggression. I found it to be very good for myself to simply thank her for the good times we had and wish her goodluck. Did she deserve to hear any of that? No, prolly not. But I was always taught that you treat people the way you want to be treated, and even though being the bigger man is a harder raod to take, it will be worth it in the end.
My best advice I could give you would be to rid yourself of anything that reminds you of her...Especially telephone #'s. If you keep it in your phone, your going to be tempted to call her (especially drunk). I also think if you leave it in the phone, subcounciously (sp), you will always be hoping and waiting for a telephone call from her which may or may not happen.
What I did was copy her phone #, e-mail address and home address on to a piece of paper and sent it to my mom to hang out to. Just incase I ever want to try and contact her again in the future, which I may, or may not do...
Just keep buisy, think about all the good things you have in life, and kick some arse.
Let me end with this, and hopefully its not too bitter, but I think the whole "soulmate" thing is a load of crap. Theres over a billion other women on the planet. If you met em all, you would think theres millions of "soulmates" out there...It's all about compatibality, and you will find that again. Don't think you wont. |