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Originally Posted by mnixon  Makes you realize that there are more important things than shady people also. Trust me, you'll look back and thank the skank for doing that to you.
All the time, but I do it, it's a job. |
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Originally Posted by FatBastard Man I feel for you. Do whatever it takes to get her out of your system. have you ever thought since she got this new guy so quickly, she may have been cheating on you?
Hell if she can't stick around for the rough times, you don't need her. |
Wow, you guys must have never broke up with anyone?!
I understand he's feeling really bad and he's hurt right now, so we're all trying to support him and help him see that there are going to be brighter days but why does that always have to include trash talk about someone we don't know?
I don't know her either so I'm not necessarily defending her, maybe she is a horrible person, who knows, but the point is that it happens, people break up. It's better than continuing on in a relationship she may not have been happy in and ending up married with a couple kids and being miserable her whole life, making his life miserable too right? And who's business is it if she started dating someone a week after they broke up. She broke up with him. He no longer gets a say. That doesn't mean she was cheating and it doesn't matter anymore anyways, so no need to focus on it. It may be a coping mechanism for her just the same as how you all were giving him the advice of getting back out there and dating other women. I've broke up with people I loved before because I knew that there was no way in hell the relationship could ever work. Love isn't the only thing needed to make a good life with someone. So who knows maybe the breakup hurt her too and she's out there trying to ease the pain. I don't know what her reason or motives are for it, but my point is, neither do you guys. And I'm sure none of you have broke up with someone and found yourself out with another girl a couple of months later? Does that make you "shady" "skanks???"
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Originally Posted by Mattio Yea man, the best thing to do if you want to have her back in your life is to pretend like you are enjoying life and are busy with other things and other girls. It'll drive her bonkers for you. |
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Originally Posted by bwade210 One more thing, and this is the most important thing.
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER CALL HER! No matter how great the temptation is. As long as you call she will know that she still has you. Stop calling and she will go crazy herself! |
Don't ever let your focus be making her miserable because you'll just be making yourself miserable in the meantime. As long as your reason for not calling and finding other women to date are to make her miserable, SHE is still your focus and you won't heal. YOU be your focus. Do those things because it's best for you. Picking at a scab just makes the wound heal slower. The more you worry about her the harder it'll be. Not saying you can't be sad or think about her...