Well I am a strong believer that you do what makes you happy, not what is easiest. I support my husband 99%. When I feel very strongly that he is making the wrong decision about something I speak my mind and I do not let up until we have come to an agreement or compromise. We are pretty fortunate and it won't be as much of a struggle for us as it is and has been for others, but there will still be many sacrifices and a lot of patience needed as we will probably end up moving many times, not being together on important occasions, etc. The biggest thing for me that makes it easy to accept, is that I when after he's been away, that when he comes home it will be 100% about me and our family. I know some guys might come home and want to go out with the buddies, go golfing, go to bars, etc. That would not work for me. When he's home, he is home and we are going to be getting the best of all the time we will have together so that the time apart is less painful. I know how important his son is to him as well, and I know he will do everything he can to be there for him in every way possible. I would not be as tolerant if he was the kind of dad to just not want to be bothered by his children, because that would be a huge burden on me. I know some times it's going to be really hard, and I will feel like a single parent. But knowing that he is happy and enjoying his career instead of lugging in to work with "I hate Monday" syndrome, will make it all worth it. Anyway, that was just a bunch of rambling, hope any of it was helpful.
Tell her to sign up, we need some more estrogen around here.
Or better yet, have her sign up on Kristie's site,
www.fcapa.org cause that's where the women rule! And we can talk about girl stuff without all the manly nonesense that goes on around here. Lol.