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Originally Posted by Maximillian_Jenius  I can see that...just can't see giving up ones career forever. When the kid becomes school age, time to go back to work. Strictly my opinion. |
Someone once told me that I would understand better once I had kids. I thought that was BS. Guess what? It's not. I can totally see someone giving up their career to be a stay out home mom/dad. Even when the kid starts going to school, there's still plenty of stuff that needs to be done around the house. Laundry, yard work, bills, cleaning, cooking, errands. Your time to do those things gets SERIOUSLY reduced once you have kids. I used to work those in when I could before we had Gavin. Now, even that little bit of time is done. Those things you used to do on weekends like the yard, etc. It gets tougher when you have to chase a drunken midget around, too. Sometimes, after that, you're just too damn tired to do some of the stuff that needs to be done. Toss a 9-5 job in there, and it's worse. Plus, school is on a different schedule than work most of the time. So, you're back to the day care aspect again.
Factor in that some schools aren't very good education builders, despite all the No Child Left Behind stuff. NOW you're trying to find a good school to match your school age kid. This is why some parents not only give up their careers, but even home school their kids. That's what we're leaning towards right now.
Basically, what you have to accept is the needs of the child trump your own needs. If it's better for the kid in the long run for you to give up your career, then so be it.