Ditto what Calcapt said.
There's a LOT of divorce in the airline business for a variety of reasons.
If she's looking for the home with the white picket fence, in a small town where Mr. Pilot is going to be home to carve the brisket every evening, this profession is going to eat the marriage alive.
It was a challenge getting into and reaching success WITH the support of Kristie, but if she wasn't behind me it would have been impossible.
I'd suggest getting together to sit down and have a serious chat about goals and expectations.
As selfish as it sounds, you need someone that's 100% behind you. Not one that simply
says, "I'm behind you", but the one that says, "Idiot, they're offering you a job in Kenai, Alaska. You're GOING. Don't be a wuss, get it done dingleberry!" instead of "OMG! We live in Buffalo, NY, that job is out in Great Falls, MT! What about me and the children? I'm NOT leaving Buffalo! Wait until BuffaloAirways calls!" (BuffaloAirways may
never call)
Besides, if you sacrifice your dreams before you even get married and have children, what do you think your kids are going to say? "Dad, I'm glad you didn't follow your dreams!" and what's he going to tell you when you scream at him about not going away to med school on a full-ride scholarship because he wants to stay in town with his high school sweetheart and work at JiffyLube to be closer to her?
"Dad, you gave it all up for love, why can't I?"
Aviation's a weird business bro. Good luck and let us know what questions you need answered.