[calcapt]

A few thoughts:

Like others have said here, if you can't be happy independently, you will never be happy together. She, basing her happiness on you, is already raising red flags in my book. You can get into all the mushy let's explore each others feelings stuff, or look at it in a non emotional and objective way. Realize that there are many wonderful women out there that would support you 100 percent in your dream to fly. You don't have to try to make it work with someone who is already expressing reservations about your dreams and goals. I can also tell you that going to work as a teacher or coach and looking skyward every day, watching the contrails overhead and thinking "what if" would be hell if flying is what you really wanted to be doing.

A smart man once said "Making the correct decision usually requires choosing the most difficult option."

At the very least, don't get married until you have this issue completely settled.