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Originally Posted by fly22  I hate to sound selfish but she wont be happy if youre not happy. If you hate your job it will directly affect her. YOu have to enjoy your life to be able to enjoy your life with her. |
It goes both ways too, though, if she is completely miserable being married to a pilot, she will make his life miserable, it really won't work if either one of them says they'll give in, when they don't mean it, end up resentful, etc. She can't decide she is ok with him being a pilot if she doesn't mean it with conviction. He can't say he's willing to give up being a pilot, unless it's not a big deal to him. They have to meet in the middle and mean it if they compromise on their current stand. Make sure that if it really comes down to "you choose me or flying", she needs to understand (if you say flying) that you aren't choosing her or flying, you are choosing to find someone that will be supportive in all your goals and dreams and that person isn't her. It sounds the same, but it's still different, if that makes sense.