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Originally Posted by SeatClutcher  You are absotootely right.
Not sure what kind of advice you want. You have many options:
1. Go alone and suffer the wrath of Dad |
I forgot to mention one thing: my sisters and mother. They still live at home, and will have to live with him while he is going insane. I told my mom today that I don't want him coming along, and now she isn't talking to me because she knows this means she'll have to sit through one of his hissy fits (which will last for a few days at the very least).
This is the thing that tears me up. My whole life I have obeyed him, not out of love or respect, but because I feared having to endure one of his fits. My mom and sisters are the same way. I'm sure deep down inside my mom agrees its best that I go alone, but she doesn't want to go against my father because she knows how he'll react. Who do I look out for? My mom and sisters, or myself?
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Originally Posted by NotCoolEnufToFly I know it's a source of great stress and anxiety for you but your father probably only wants to go because he loves you and wants to make sure you're okay. Remember that before making a decision. |
I think the only reason he is insisting to go is to prove to me that he is the one in charge. He has issues with control. If you disagree with him, he'll throw the biggest fit until you cave in.
A few summers ago I got the opportunity to live in an apartment with free rent, but he said I couldn't do it. He had no good reasons why I shouldn't live there, he just said "because I said so", and therefore i should just obey him. I tried to argue that this was a good move, but no matter what I said his response was always "I'm your father and you're not going because I say so"