[NotCoolEnufToFly]

Thankfully, I don't have to deal with this with my parents. I only have my mother and we have a very good relationship. She gives and I give and there are never strings attached. However, the rest of my family... HA! They are extremely difficult. I could tell you what works for me, but unfortunately it's different for everyone. I have made it known to all of my friends and family that I really appreciate it when they are there for me and try to help me out but if they choose to do that, then I owe NOTHING! Don't tell me you want to help and sell me the car and do this and that but ONLY IF... But then on the other hand that is your father and sometimes loving people isn't easy or fun but a choice and you have to give as well as take. I know it's a source of great stress and anxiety for you but your father probably only wants to go because he loves you and wants to make sure you're okay. Remember that before making a decision.