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juskl · October 14th, 2006, 13:57

Anymore, I can just put it this way, some things work out and some don't. I was a Police Officer for 13 years, left two months ago to finish my CFI, and yes in the process of getting Divorced.

I can tell you that any job where stess is the number one component, with alot of us Alpha Males and Females involved in it, will set up a situation for the Divorce to occur. Hell, I didn't even realize how, "emotionally unavailable" I became, until she moved out. Not that that was the only cause for the split (no affairs involved thank God), but marriage generally becomes a victim to the job.

And I am not condoning the affair situation by any means, but when you work in that environment long enough with close friends of the opposite sex in close quarters, well...... things happen.

When I was with the Police Department, I would sometimes work 60 hour weeks in some pretty tough and stressful (not to mention emotionally charged) situations. It was fellow coworkers that I was sharing those times with, and you get very close to one another (can't help but to)....

I was never in the military, but I am sure that those that are (especially in battle zones), can relate to the closeness and bonding that occurs with your buddies in that environment. This won't be repeated with a significant other due to the situational difference. Unless that spouse or significant other were in the day to day stress and danger with the husband or wife involved...... Just my experience....

October 14th, 2006, 13:57	#83
juskl Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 252	Re: not another pilot divorce Anymore, I can just put it this way, some things work out and some don't. I was a Police Officer for 13 years, left two months ago to finish my CFI, and yes in the process of getting Divorced. I can tell you that any job where stess is the number one component, with alot of us Alpha Males and Females involved in it, will set up a situation for the Divorce to occur. Hell, I didn't even realize how, "emotionally unavailable" I became, until she moved out. Not that that was the only cause for the split (no affairs involved thank God), but marriage generally becomes a victim to the job. And I am not condoning the affair situation by any means, but when you work in that environment long enough with close friends of the opposite sex in close quarters, well...... things happen. When I was with the Police Department, I would sometimes work 60 hour weeks in some pretty tough and stressful (not to mention emotionally charged) situations. It was fellow coworkers that I was sharing those times with, and you get very close to one another (can't help but to).... I was never in the military, but I am sure that those that are (especially in battle zones), can relate to the closeness and bonding that occurs with your buddies in that environment. This won't be repeated with a significant other due to the situational difference. Unless that spouse or significant other were in the day to day stress and danger with the husband or wife involved...... Just my experience....