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Originally Posted by Kristie I know how you feel Airdale... we've been there... back then, was really REALLY a difficult time, i had a lot of doubts that we would be able to make it... I could give you my side but doug's side would probably be much more understandable since he was the one going for the career...
as for me, i had to decide whether I wanted to stay with a happy guy or try to change him into something he's not.. i knew the whole changing scenario would never work so i opted to "tough it out" and follow the yellow brick road, to where, i had no idea...for us, it worked... and at some point, say 4-5 years from now, the industry might upturn as we're starting to see with all of this hiring going on and possibility of major's hiring soon and all....
but yes, you do have to weigh the options carefully because the last thing she wants is an unhappy husband...accepting that she can't be #1 on your list until you've achieved success is really the hardest place to be and with a wedding on the way, it don't think it's going to get easier
liek B767driver said -> the pain is temporary...it may last a few years till you get up to where you can find a decent job/benefits...but it does get better...it takes time, patience and dedication on both your parts to make it work...
what's the possibility that she can move over to you? or that you can work out a compromise on some of the issues so that you can keep going with your pursuits and she can keep going with hers? |
Thanks a lot for all of the replies, I appreciate them.
I think I was just freaking out the other day, its really the first time I've done that in this career and I think it might have been related to not flying in almost a week because of weather. When time is going in to the logbook everyday, I can see the progress and it's somewhat comforting.
She's a tough sport though, I'll give her that. And she's in for the long haul. We had a long talk the other night, and we've had them before. I enjoy instructing at ATP and it's only a matter of time before I get located back near home. That will certainly make things easier. She is a school teacher, and she teaches special ed. The state of New Jersey pays her very well as a teacher, so financially, I just need to be where she is so that her income can take care of things.
I plan on instructing back home, hopefully in the near future, and building my hours until I can get on with a Regional or Cargo based in PHL or EWR. Financially we just can not afford to move somewhere else unless its for a job that pays enough to support both of us. I'm not relocating without her. I won't be making enough money at a regional or entry level cargo position to support her while she looks for another job. As far as regionals go, I have a few choice's that would more then likely put me within driving distance. Expressjet and Air Wisconsin. I will move later on the down road for an opportunity with a Major, but I can't afford to do it on regional pay.
I'm doing ATP's RJ course in a few months and by then I'll have over 500TT as things seem. With the RJ course I can probably get on at one of the above mentioned soon afterwards.
We'll see, but for now I'm staying the course. Too much money and time invested to bail at this point. Plus I love flying and I know I'm close to where I dreamed of being as a kid. Just gotta keep pushing on and hopefully soon I'll be heading up to Jersey to instruct there. The ideal situation is be based with a regional out of Philly or Newark, that way the low pay isn't a big issue because of her salary. I can make due with that and probably be pretty happy.