 Re: Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?
I know how you feel Airdale... we've been there... back then, was really REALLY a difficult time, i had a lot of doubts that we would be able to make it... I could give you my side but doug's side would probably be much more understandable since he was the one going for the career...
as for me, i had to decide whether I wanted to stay with a happy guy or try to change him into something he's not.. i knew the whole changing scenario would never work so i opted to "tough it out" and follow the yellow brick road, to where, i had no idea...for us, it worked... and at some point, say 4-5 years from now, the industry might upturn as we're starting to see with all of this hiring going on and possibility of major's hiring soon and all....
but yes, you do have to weigh the options carefully because the last thing she wants is an unhappy husband...accepting that she can't be #1 on your list until you've achieved success is really the hardest place to be and with a wedding on the way, it don't think it's going to get easier
liek B767driver said -> the pain is temporary...it may last a few years till you get up to where you can find a decent job/benefits...but it does get better...it takes time, patience and dedication on both your parts to make it work...
what's the possibility that she can move over to you? or that you can work out a compromise on some of the issues so that you can keep going with your pursuits and she can keep going with hers? |