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Kristie · May 31st, 2003, 00:03

first question... how old are you? cuz with the younger you are, the more life you have coming up ahead of you and with only a year till she's done with school - that time will go quickly!! I've known a few couples who have been separated for 2 years or more because they're taking classes in a different state...

how long have you two been dating? there are things you can do within a year that will make it easier for you to do what you need to do and for her to finish school... since your both still building your careers - it's really quite important to finish your career goals and then move relationship wise... your relationship will grow with time, but your career will only grow if you put the time and effort into it now rather than later...

when doug and I first met - we were apart for at least the first 2-3 years... the thing that kept us going was talking everyday whether email or phone (cell phone plans are great now a days for that) and meeting every 3-6 months... we'd send photos back and forth and just keep that contact up as much as possible.. but we both knew we had to get our careers underway if we wanted a life together - and that's the decision you have to make...

if you really do have a great relationship with your gf - then she's not going to want you to put off your career until she's done with school - in fact, she'd probably want you to go do this job "because" she's still in school and because she wants what's best for you (for you to be happy).... she has to concentrate on school and while she's doing that, you can concentrate on this new job... when she's done - she can always meet you where you are or you can decide where to go from there....

unfortunately, some relationships do fall through the cracks, but then, even if you stay, it could turn disasterdly if you start ro resent your decision to stay or resent her for some reason or even regret your choices... the first thing you need to do is "do for yourself before you do for others"...because if you win, they win!!

good luck with your decision!! I'm sure you'll make the best choice for you!!

Kristie

May 31st, 2003, 00:03	#2
Kristie Big Chief's Woman Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 17,966 Blog Entries: 3	Re: Moving far away... first question... how old are you? cuz with the younger you are, the more life you have coming up ahead of you and with only a year till she's done with school - that time will go quickly!! I've known a few couples who have been separated for 2 years or more because they're taking classes in a different state... how long have you two been dating? there are things you can do within a year that will make it easier for you to do what you need to do and for her to finish school... since your both still building your careers - it's really quite important to finish your career goals and then move relationship wise... your relationship will grow with time, but your career will only grow if you put the time and effort into it now rather than later... when doug and I first met - we were apart for at least the first 2-3 years... the thing that kept us going was talking everyday whether email or phone (cell phone plans are great now a days for that) and meeting every 3-6 months... we'd send photos back and forth and just keep that contact up as much as possible.. but we both knew we had to get our careers underway if we wanted a life together - and that's the decision you have to make... if you really do have a great relationship with your gf - then she's not going to want you to put off your career until she's done with school - in fact, she'd probably want you to go do this job "because" she's still in school and because she wants what's best for you (for you to be happy).... she has to concentrate on school and while she's doing that, you can concentrate on this new job... when she's done - she can always meet you where you are or you can decide where to go from there.... unfortunately, some relationships do fall through the cracks, but then, even if you stay, it could turn disasterdly if you start ro resent your decision to stay or resent her for some reason or even regret your choices... the first thing you need to do is "do for yourself before you do for others"...because if you win, they win!! good luck with your decision!! I'm sure you'll make the best choice for you!! Kristie