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Originally Posted by toughnuts I do not think that it is a naive statement, but I do think additional information needs to be addressed. Most divorces today are the result of how our dating system is set up today. I'm not saying that arranged marriages are the answer; I am saying that you should only date someone if you can see yourself marrying them. Otherwise it is a waste of time. If you just date someone until you get (tired/sick of them) / don't like them anymore, this will set you up for failure.
So how many wives are you going to have then? I tell you this, EVERYBODY has hard times. If you leave when times are hard, the process will repeat over and over again. YOU will be unhappy. |
Ok tough, I see that at 18 you have a ton of experience with this stuff. Granted I'm only about 5 mins older than you, but you have to realize marrying forever is somewhat of a dated concept. People change, expectations change. What you want at 18, 25 30 40.... is going to be different as time goes on. I can tell you from personal experience that my parents are much happier now that they're divorced. My sisters and I are also very happy that they're divorced. My girlfriend is divorced. It's just not as cut and dry as you're implying. Some situations are unforseen, and you never know how you or your partner might change.
As far as only dating people you think you might marry. Well that seems like a rediculous concept to me. I dated lots of women I wouldn't even want to go out with. Why, they were attractive, or not hung up about sex or just simply available. My philosophy is have a good time and don't look too hard. Thats when you meet someone you might want to spend a long period of time with. My current 4 and a half year relationship started as a drunken hook up. But hey, that's not for everyone. We all have different things that make us happy. So don't think that multiple marriages will make you unhappy. If your a crazy dionysion (sp?) hard living beat type guy you just might need to keep it crazy to keep it fresh and stay happy.