My girlfriend and I have been togethor for 4 years now. We talk about marriage and I waver back and forth. However, the thing I keep coming to is whats the point? Marriage is such a religious convention, and I'm agnostic and she's atheist. We've been sleeping togethor since the first day we met. The only benefit I can see with marriage is the power of attorney type situation (ie she pulls the plug instead of my parents if I'm in a coma) and the ability to transfer funds to one another without the estate tax.
I think this is why so many marriages fail. There's no longer an enormous stigma attached to divorce. That coupled with the fact that most people tend to change enormously from their early to mid twenties. At 40 you guys aren't the same people anymore.
Seagull, the person that gets the most support is the one that made the least during the marriage. If you marry a doctor you'll get paid. I know that if I was married to my girlfriend right now and we got a divorce she'd have to pay me. I'd happily take it
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