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Old March 13th, 2002, 10:39   #8
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Default Re: Problem with elders

Not from my parents - even though Mom is graciously biting her tongue. She's not overly thrilled about my career choice, but the overriding factor is - I'll be happy - so that tempers her urge to scream "DON'T DO IT MAN!!"

My aunt on the other hand.......well, let's just say that she didn't have the courage to call me or to say something to me in person, but she gave me a good chiding on e-mail which went something like "you should consider your mother's feelings more when making your decisions......." and it went on ad-nausiem. I was as diplomatic as I could be until she began to challenge my ability to make "wise" decisions (i.e. decisions that SHE agreed with) and then "it was on". I got harsh - in short told her to bug out and mind her own business. In doing so, I got the entire families support.

BOTTOME LINE: You're never going to be able to make eveybody happy. So, make sure that YOU are happy first. Every thing else will fall into place.
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