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Kristie · March 11th, 2001, 16:45

Hi Frank,

really, I see Doug pretty often I think! at least lately, I have. I'd say depending on schedule, I'll see him maybe 3/4 days out of a week... like with this months schedule, he'll go on 4 day trips and then he'll be home for 3 or 4 straight days. the only bad thing about this month is that most of his trips occur during the weekend, so that means I really only see him at night after work and if I take some time off from work to spend time with him... luckily, my job offers me that opportunity.

it really just depends on seniority and scheduling.. we've had schedules where Doug gets every weekend off, then we've had schedules where he's constantly flying 4 day trips on the weekend.. that's just how it goes.

but even when he has bad months, there are always things we can do about it.. take this weekend for instance.. he's working most of the weekends, but this weekend he had a long Reno layover - so I went with him. I flew from phoenix to Dallas.. then flew his trip from Dallas to Oakland (captain drove) then from Oakland to Reno (Doug drove)... I'd never been on a flight where he drove the plane and that was just sooo exciting for me! he's really really good - smooth takeoffs, easy landings, couldn't ask for better! but we had a great relaxing day in Reno and just spent some time together. Now, I'm back in phoenix, he's on his way to CVG (Cincinnati) and just called to say they cancelled his CVG-ATL flight and will be home late tonight... how that for 'cool'!! so, sometimes the schedules will work in your advantage, sometimes not - best thing is to just go with the flow of it and it'll get easier and easier as your seniority goes up!!

as for our relationship.. I would say that it's not normal, but in my opinion.. it's better than normal! A lot of couples I know in 'normal' 9-5 relationships don't have good bonds like we do with our traveling significant others. when they're traveling, we're getting our private time and our independence back.. when they're home, we're going for the quality of time, not the quantity of time. it makes it so much more special and important to go for the quality whereas a lot of people think that the quantity of time does the trick. sometimes, I think spending too much time together isn't good because you start taking the little things forgranted. so that's why I think relationships where life is a challenge is really an opportunity to live life to the fullest! But to be honest, I didn't always think this way.. it takes some time to get used to it and you just have to 'kind of' grow into it - then you can get a better understanding of how different and unique it is to see your version of 'couple' as compared to someone else's.

As far as I know.. Doug and I have a relationship that no other couples 'WE' know have.. we're in our 30's, still acting like teenagers (we went on one of those VR roller coasters the other day - GOTTA TRY IT!!) and having a really great time together.. other couples I've seen start getting on each others nerves, sticking the other in a cage (so to speak - 'why do you want to do that' type thing) and not experiencing the things they want to do because of the other person in the relationship... the only thing that Doug and I ever say about that is: you only have one life, live it now and sleep when your 80! If your partner doesn't want to join you, to bad for them.. they're missing out!

Thanks for posting!

March 11th, 2001, 16:45	#4
Kristie Big Chief's Woman Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 17,532 Blog Entries: 3	Re: A Question for Kristie Hi Frank, really, I see Doug pretty often I think! at least lately, I have. I'd say depending on schedule, I'll see him maybe 3/4 days out of a week... like with this months schedule, he'll go on 4 day trips and then he'll be home for 3 or 4 straight days. the only bad thing about this month is that most of his trips occur during the weekend, so that means I really only see him at night after work and if I take some time off from work to spend time with him... luckily, my job offers me that opportunity. it really just depends on seniority and scheduling.. we've had schedules where Doug gets every weekend off, then we've had schedules where he's constantly flying 4 day trips on the weekend.. that's just how it goes. but even when he has bad months, there are always things we can do about it.. take this weekend for instance.. he's working most of the weekends, but this weekend he had a long Reno layover - so I went with him. I flew from phoenix to Dallas.. then flew his trip from Dallas to Oakland (captain drove) then from Oakland to Reno (Doug drove)... I'd never been on a flight where he drove the plane and that was just sooo exciting for me! he's really really good - smooth takeoffs, easy landings, couldn't ask for better! but we had a great relaxing day in Reno and just spent some time together. Now, I'm back in phoenix, he's on his way to CVG (Cincinnati) and just called to say they cancelled his CVG-ATL flight and will be home late tonight... how that for 'cool'!! so, sometimes the schedules will work in your advantage, sometimes not - best thing is to just go with the flow of it and it'll get easier and easier as your seniority goes up!! as for our relationship.. I would say that it's not normal, but in my opinion.. it's better than normal! A lot of couples I know in 'normal' 9-5 relationships don't have good bonds like we do with our traveling significant others. when they're traveling, we're getting our private time and our independence back.. when they're home, we're going for the quality of time, not the quantity of time. it makes it so much more special and important to go for the quality whereas a lot of people think that the quantity of time does the trick. sometimes, I think spending too much time together isn't good because you start taking the little things forgranted. so that's why I think relationships where life is a challenge is really an opportunity to live life to the fullest! But to be honest, I didn't always think this way.. it takes some time to get used to it and you just have to 'kind of' grow into it - then you can get a better understanding of how different and unique it is to see your version of 'couple' as compared to someone else's. As far as I know.. Doug and I have a relationship that no other couples 'WE' know have.. we're in our 30's, still acting like teenagers (we went on one of those VR roller coasters the other day - GOTTA TRY IT!!) and having a really great time together.. other couples I've seen start getting on each others nerves, sticking the other in a cage (so to speak - 'why do you want to do that' type thing) and not experiencing the things they want to do because of the other person in the relationship... the only thing that Doug and I ever say about that is: you only have one life, live it now and sleep when your 80! If your partner doesn't want to join you, to bad for them.. they're missing out! Thanks for posting!