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TheWife · July 19th, 2004, 19:30

I didn't pressure Corbin in to getting married, we dated for 5 years before we did. (Granted were both still young). I know of a lot of guys that pressure girls so don't think it's all only the women.

As for WHY to get married, I agree with Emily. It's REALLY easy to walk away from even a "commited" relationship, but when you are actually married it's a whole different story. It MAKES you have to work at it, it makes you a better person when you are willing to do that work. Also if you want children, well, I don't think any one can argue that a two parent family is generally a better way to raise kids than random multiple partners their whole life. It's also a religous thing for many, it's a celebration, it's legal proof of your commitment, it's a way to get your benefits/taxes etc. taken care of.

If some one is feeling pressured to get married, and they don't WANT to, than they shouldn't. But if someone has been in a relationship for several years and wants to be married and the other person doesn't want to, than I understand why they would put pressure on. You can only wait so long for one person before you have to question their reasons for not wanting a life time commitment to you. Then you have to say, now or I am leaving.

I think some guys are just big chickens when it comes to getting married though. Deep down they really want to be, but they don't think it's macho or something so they put up a fight.

July 19th, 2004, 19:30	#7
TheWife Old Skool Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Utah Posts: 4,180	Re: Marriage Pressure... I didn't pressure Corbin in to getting married, we dated for 5 years before we did. (Granted were both still young). I know of a lot of guys that pressure girls so don't think it's all only the women. As for WHY to get married, I agree with Emily. It's REALLY easy to walk away from even a "commited" relationship, but when you are actually married it's a whole different story. It MAKES you have to work at it, it makes you a better person when you are willing to do that work. Also if you want children, well, I don't think any one can argue that a two parent family is generally a better way to raise kids than random multiple partners their whole life. It's also a religous thing for many, it's a celebration, it's legal proof of your commitment, it's a way to get your benefits/taxes etc. taken care of. If some one is feeling pressured to get married, and they don't WANT to, than they shouldn't. But if someone has been in a relationship for several years and wants to be married and the other person doesn't want to, than I understand why they would put pressure on. You can only wait so long for one person before you have to question their reasons for not wanting a life time commitment to you. Then you have to say, now or I am leaving. I think some guys are just big chickens when it comes to getting married though. Deep down they really want to be, but they don't think it's macho or something so they put up a fight.