Another +1 for calcapt...
However, focus on life and wife enough and remember that flying days are
just that. Being in love with flying is someting completely different from being in love with the idea of flying... You can spend your whole life chasing some perfect picture...
When you encounter hardships and struggle, always remember the people who got you there and helped you along the way. Aviation will not care what you do, where you fly or how much money you make.
Your competition is cheap and bendable, you can be replaced, laid off or tossed from any seat - so, count on the things that matter and, I promise, when you turn 87 - the people around you are likely going to be close to you because you where a good father, husband or partner for life. Your logbooks, awards and trophies will not matter much.
Being home every night is not a guarantee for anything with your new wife, and when she thinks or feels something you do for this "career" is silly or too much sacrifice, take a step back and try to see it from her perspective as well. This really helps when the 5 - 8 year trouble starts rolling around the corner.
Good luck on both.