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shooter13 · May 20th, 2004, 11:21

Wow that sucks.

I have seen similar circumstances with friends in the navy whose wife got used to us being gone. We had the most problems at home for guys about 2 months after we returned from deployments.

I'll tell it to you like I told it to guys i worked with and like was told to me when similar issues faced me.

The ball is entirely in her court. You can't "make" her want you around. If she doesn't, then she doesn't and you can't change it. But, if she doesn't want you around, then you really need to question yourself about why you want to be around her. I have seen way to many guys and girls hanging onto a failed relationship when the other party changes their mind. I have seen grown men turned into wimpering basket cases every time we go to sea becasue they don't know if their wife is going to leave them while we are gone. It isn't worth it. If she decides she doesn't want to live with you, then you need to show some self-respect and let her leave.

It hurts. I know it does from personal experience but better that than to constantly anguish over what you can do to make them want to be with you. Besides, if she isn't treating you with respect, I can guarantee you that there is a woman out there that will.

May 20th, 2004, 11:21	#5
shooter13 Old Skool Join Date: May 2002 Location: South Carolina Posts: 1,952	Re: Scared Wow that sucks. I have seen similar circumstances with friends in the navy whose wife got used to us being gone. We had the most problems at home for guys about 2 months after we returned from deployments. I'll tell it to you like I told it to guys i worked with and like was told to me when similar issues faced me. The ball is entirely in her court. You can't "make" her want you around. If she doesn't, then she doesn't and you can't change it. But, if she doesn't want you around, then you really need to question yourself about why you want to be around her. I have seen way to many guys and girls hanging onto a failed relationship when the other party changes their mind. I have seen grown men turned into wimpering basket cases every time we go to sea becasue they don't know if their wife is going to leave them while we are gone. It isn't worth it. If she decides she doesn't want to live with you, then you need to show some self-respect and let her leave. It hurts. I know it does from personal experience but better that than to constantly anguish over what you can do to make them want to be with you. Besides, if she isn't treating you with respect, I can guarantee you that there is a woman out there that will.